Life is hard. As much as we want to be strong and pretend it’s not, it is. Problems are real. Money is hard. Finding your path is hard. Finding your soul mate, friends, career, it’s all hard. We watch movies all the time that end in fairy tales. We watch the characters struggle and hurt but we know it will all work out in the end. Why can’t life feel that way? Why can’t we see through all of our struggles? All of our pain. Why can’t we believe that it is all going to be okay in the end? This year has been nothing but hurt after hurt, disappointment after disappointment. I used to be so positive. So on fire for whatever the world could throw at me. I have lost that. I have lost my motivation to be better. I have lost my faith in people. And I have found myself not trusting anyone and pushing everyone away. But how do I not. If I don’t, I am going to let the wrong people in. Of course I won’t think they are the wrong people until they break my heart.
I just want to be the same girl that believed, no matter what, everything was going to be okay. I want to be the girl that believes in herself and her strengths. I want to be the girl that believes in love and marriage and the fairy tale romance.
But truth be told, I’m not. I just truly do not believe it is in the cards for me. People can say that I’m being dramatic or that I’m naïve or young. But I am so afraid of being hurt again that I would rather stay lonely for the rest of my life then to have to relive the pain of another heartbreak.
To be honest, I don’t know why I can’t get over it.
I don’t understand how someone that loved you could turn around and hurt you so deeply. I will never understand how someone that loved you could go out of their way to make you feel like the worst person on the planet. So unlovable, so unworthy, so useless. I don’t miss who he is, but I miss what he was. I do not miss the relationship but I miss being important to someone.
I miss someone just simply asking how my day was or just checking in to ask if I needed anything. I miss someone caring about my dreams and goals. I miss having a partner to do life with. I miss the peace that came from being able to trust another human being with everything in your life. But now its just me. I am relearning how to depend on myself. I know that at the end of the day, it will only be me here and that’s okay. Sometimes I just wish that there was someone else who could relate. But what comes with letting someone in or letting them see you that vulnerable is the chance of letting someone break your heart. Friend, boyfriend, family, it doesn’t matter. Sometimes it is just easier to stay to yourself. Sometimes life can get really lonely but at that same time, life becomes really safe.